The Authentic Me

There is a horrible lie in our culture that all we need to do is be ourselves. Bill Cosby joked that cocaine made the real person come out. He asked: But what if I am an asshole? We all know how that turned out. People should generally not be content with themselves. We are a nasty bunch for the most part. Only through great effort do we become any less nasty.

So who am I to tell you this? I’m just another judgmental jerk. But I can see you for who you are. I can tell if you are a whiner. I can tell if you are lazy. I can if you are willfully ignorant.

The real me wants extravagant wealth and all the wives and children I can afford with it. The real me wants you to pay me to listen to your sob story. The real me wants you to entertain me or leave me alone. My therapist calls it delusions of grandeur. You don’t want my authentic self. You want me to pretend I like you and give you money.

The person I am is problematic. The person you are probably is too. You might be kidding yourself that you don’t hurt anyone. But if you are not helping anyone either then you really aren’t all that good a person. We live in a fallen world. We are sinners. If you think there’s nothing wrong with you then you are lying to yourself. My authentic self needs to give way to a better self. So does yours.

4 responses to “The Authentic Me”

  1. The person you are describing is not your aurhentic self. The person you are describing is the person you think you need to be to be safe as your authentic self.

    I don’t not say this to invalidate the self you know. I know and love that version of you too. But your authentic self is who you are when you strip away the need to be other than you are.

    In order to make yourself better in the future, you need to be able to sit with yourself as you are now, with compassion rather than judgment. By knowing yourself as you are now, you can identify the parts of yourself that need mending, healing, and/or growth to become the version of yourself that can thrive in your authenticity.

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    1. I want to guarantee to you that “compassion rather than judgment” is not particularly authentic in me. Perhaps I overstated the case because of the beer. It happens.

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      1. I know that you veer towards judgement as a default, but that is not a matter of authenticity.

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      2. I disagree but I think we are at an impasse about it.

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